Seriously doe

Merry Christmas everyone,

So I just got done work and am relaxing, and thinking and so forth.

Christmas is how you make it really, if you think it’ll suck it will if you think it will be great it will be. And then there are people like me aha that are stuck in the middle, I think Christmas is great (besides the materialism aspect tho) I love the idea of seeing all your friends and family and just spending time together.

Now what I don’t like, really and its unchangeable is the fact that my mom is no longer here – over the last year I have taken this and used as a drive for my ambition – in a positive way. Being me I always try to be positive, and I achieved many goals over 2014.

But I really just was not feeling the whole Christmas spirit – until a rather small gesture kinda made my wholeee day :3 So this pretty-fucking-amazing-asfuck-guy gave me a call (well 3 calls actually); like I said rather small gesture but Jesus did it make my day. I was on time (kinda) for work and I had a perma-smile on my face. Like seriously guys you have no clue how amazing it was just to talk on the phone with someone whom you can’t see on Christmas that you care about.

Which brings me to the semi conclusion of this blog, small gestures guys- you don’t need to spend every last fuckin penny you have on someone to show them you care. All it took for me is a call and I’m on like cloud 9. Not to get corny or anything it’s the small things that count :3

Have a merry Christmas and remember that it’s not about what you get, it’s about what you do for others and what you give that matters the most, alongside the small things in life ; appreciate the people around you cherish every moment because one day they won’t be there. Also the small things ❤

Peace.

Is love blind ?

So on fb someone (mino) posted a photo of a pair of old no good boots that she was going to get rid of and I went forth and commented on there and another friend/cousin of hers commented (jed) and then we went forth with disputing on love. Not negatively but jokingly about love and blindness and so forth and I came out with this: 

“No but to be in love with some one or something you have to have an attraction to them and that attraction then turns into persuasion / relationship/ buying the shoes/ car /horse/ or anything it is- first an attraction a “hey look at that/those/her/him” and then from there on out it turns into love. I cant be in love with “blank” if I’m not attracted to “blank”. something draws me to it and that draw is attraction and that can even be applied to “mind sets – or how people think” like i can be attracted to a person not based on looks but based on their thinking process or views on the world or how they treat others. but the key line here is attractions draws which turns into something more.. thus being that love is not blind because you were first drawn to it/thing/item/him/her/ what him her thinks or does or says: so therefore what lead you to love was not the blindness but an clear view of something that triggered attraction in your brain/mind which open the doors to love.”

What do ya’ll think ? I’ve done plenty research on these topics because I want / had wanted to be a relationship psychologist and the biggest aspect in a relationship is love but anyways the prime idea here is that no love is not blind because you were drawn to the thing or person that you are in love with first. you were drawn through a primary sensory: seeing, hearing, tasting, touching ( I may have missed one ..) before it could lead to something else. (i.e. love)

Must say friends I’m pretty proud of myself for being this come-backy. usually I would have been like “no not true” but I actually used some knowledge.

#SingleLife

Yea, this post isn’t going on FB either haha. That title is so 2014 actually.

As you may or may not know readers I was in a long-term on and off relationship that was before a friend ship. And it ended in august/ september ish there was no real END date it just kinda went down up down and then ended. But it was always like this, unhealthy never going anywheres-ness. We are friends now, which is manageable for the moment.

I mean for once in my life I can do things how and when I want to. I don’t have to just check in or clarify to anyone. BUT there’s also the whole being an extrovert and wanting to socialize or be with people aspect that becomes lonely because you’ve lost an array of people in your life but as you see it doesn’t have to be that way. When you’re a mature adult it doesn’t have to be this cut throat ending. Well maybe that’s because there was no cheating involved in which case I can’t fucking stand cheaters and if it were to happen to me I wouldn’t keep that person in my life at all. But this previous relationship – the person is a good person he’s just not “the one” I guess you can say in a lame way. But he has been a good friend and I feel like in some way he will be for a long while. but it does make the other friendships made through the relationships (aka his friends) a little awkward, in my own personal opinion but maybe that’s because I’m socially awkward ?

Some people LOVE being alone, Some DESPISE it. Well folks I’m that guy (actually I am a female I’m just using the term guy loosely) the one who is like WELP I’m alone what to do, eat ice cream? watch sad movies ? Walk my dog at night-time? (not that ANY of those were real life examples – I don’t even buy ice cream haha) But what to do, I’m a mix of introverted and extroverted, if that even makes sense – I like to be alone but hate it, I like being with people but the sometimes I hate it. *I actually do walk my dog at night for the most part a couple of times a week it is pretty nice no ones driving by or around, just us two walkin’.

Anyways so my solution was to no-doubtly buy a dog, which was a great idea and I don’t regret it at all (but it was unexpectedly costly good thing I had 4k in savings) Duke, he is seriously the new love of my life and of course I still love Dutchess too!

And as for the rest I’m just going with it, the flow of life; sleep, eat, work, school, dogs, bills, cleaning, fitness, and repeat. What else can you do ?

travel the world, fall in love with yourself, be happy, see things that are new and exciting everyday, new experiences these are the things I am aiming to do in the now and future as much as possible . If that means being forever alone except having my dogs then so be it because the only person who knows you the best, loves you more than anyone else and who is with you 24/7 365 for life is YOU- YOURSELF that’s all you got and the rest are interactions which come together to make your life experiences with others, mind you don’t mistake this for “I’m never ever dating ugh I hate men” That is not at all what I’m saying, I’m just going to do what I do best and if someone lines up and is well you know the obvious “attractive, and mentally stimulating and is a hard worker and wants to share some of these experiences and is in love and I am too” then that happens, but I’m not forcing anything, I’m not chasing, I’m not going after, I’m not going online dating, I’m not settling, I’m not going after 17 year olds ever again cause like ew haha, I’m not going to sleep around. I’m just not going to extremes to put myself out there but I am living and I feel like this will lead to things as life lets you. I do not believe in faith or everything will fall together I believe in doing something you love and finding someone along the way and this is applicable to meeting friends too.  Just gonna do what I do, how I do, when I do all those do’s. haha does that even make sense :p.

I feel like I’m putting too much effort into explaining myself haha I’m one of those complicated elaborated not simplified persons don’t get me wrong I’m not extreamly happy, because well right now all I can think of is my shitty car and my homework assignment which I’m avoiding and in turn writing about this complicated mess of love and life. But I am living and I am doing the things I love which adds up to happiness. Which compared to a couple of years ago I’m way happier right now than I was 5 years ago or even months ago. Which in the long run is what matters most right? WHAT is with this font.

Awkwardness, so essentially I’m just being me and where that leads me is unknown because you never know what happens in tomorrowland until you’re there. (ha 10 points for anyone who knows what I’m talking about in this sentence! it’s a multi meaning type of thing.)

I’m just going to stop this now.

Peace.

 

Social Psychology

I`m an almost expert now! I wish but I`ve learnt a lot. Like why I joined soccer or why I`m friends with the people I am friends with and also why I don`t get along with my family.

I have one day left of my Psychology summer course and it is the final exam I have to take on Thursday. I also have to hand in a self-reflection paper / what this course has taught me paper.

And I would post it here but I don`t like what I know about myself. But I do what to help a few people out. According to my class,  if you`re dating someone and you have nothing in common- break up, or you can try to make it work but it will be time consuming and both partners have to be committed and don`t ever get married. Apparently people who aren`t alike have a higher divorce rate. That’s just some blunt advice/information, that you don`t have to take especially if you live by the philosophy “opposites attract“.

               I`m not sure if I believe this yet myself but I guess I`ll see.  I just mean social media play`s with this topic all of the time, you always see the rich prince and the nobody getting together. They`re nothing alike but they fall in love and get married and live happily ever after.  But I guess media likes to over dramatize everything and make the unbelievable seem like a possibility. (That’s why all these years I`ve thought there were really aliens, stupid media effects for misleading my childhood beliefs.)

My current relationship is amazing and we have something’s in common, but were not 100% alike. We both don`t like doing the dishes, which leads to one of us bribing the other to do them.  I find when you have things in common you can do a lot more.  But for every good thing there are  annoying things such as I hate shopping with men. I hate hate hate it, unless they will pay for my stuff. They are so awkward they just stand there and ladies if you’re reading this and have this problem: there is no cure and if you don`t have this problem: holy shit girl your lucky! And if you’re a guy reading my blog and notice that my example complies with you: change! Say something, point something out, DON`T stand there awkwardly!  And my second difference with my BF is I like things that give me a thrill, like roller coasters, elevators and scary things.  And well he hates roller coasters, the others don`t faze him, but he does not like anything with motion and heights. Which means either I go alone on rides, or we double date or we don`t go and save that money.  

I do Believe that you have to have things in common to have a good & fun relationship but you don`t have to have everything in common. There will be obstacles and as partners you should overcome them (depending on the activity/thing) or just leave them as is, it depends what you don`t have in common.

For us we just have given up on amusement parks because I have loneliness problems,therefore, I don`t go on rides alone because I need to hold someone’s hands. And for dishes ha-ha well, I cook and I believe that the digester/eater/person should clean up since I slaved over a meal for them.

But regardless of all this, I love my class and am now convinced that I will take every single psychology option available.

Do you believe in opposites attract?

Are you currently in a relationship where you and your partner are not the same at all?

If so how do you guys make it work?

xo, Amber

Factory girl.

So I work in a factory part-time while doing my college studies. And I know when women first started in the work force that’s what they were doing, factory work. But as a 20-year-old during college I expect more, I expect to be working a less crappy job; sure it pays more than minimum wage but honestly, It SUCKS.

I would rather work with the public or a more girly job, that I have to put efforts into looking good and being pretty. When working in a factory it is discouraging, no windows, sexist co-workers, favoritism, and just plainly it sucks. You often get sore from long hours, 12 to be exact. It is so long and painful and depressing. Good thing is that was Saturday and Sunday, and now we are Tuesday. Lovely that means there are three days left to enjoy the light, my boyfriend, my puppy and family. Then I go back.

So I have 5 current obsessions, 2 being girly, 2 being … guy-ish? And 1 being random!

1) Maybelline, New York – BABY LIPS lip gloss with color tint in pink punch. It screams cuteeee 🙂 That is why I specifically bought it, give it a try!

2) Maybelline, New York Master Precise, by eye studio in black. If you have seen any pictures of Lauren Conrad she has that classic black liquid eye liner that roles of her lids and into a point. I can master this with this amazing liquid eye liner.  Perfect for anyone who wants their eyes to pop!

3) Resident Evil 5, yes I know! It isn’t even out yet; I’m going crazy I can’t wait!

4) The Walking Dead series, that plays on AMC. As you have probably notice I’m having my yearly zombie obsession. I know I’m out of que with the rest of the world because they celebrate this or are obsessed with this during Halloween, but I’m a wee bit different. Yep best series ever and I’ll like to thank Netflix for this obsession.

5) Twitter, I know who isn’t right? But it is like checking my make up everyday. I have to check it and then tweet. It is to the point my Boyfriend wants to block it, but then the results of that action will lead to a very unhappy life… So he is being smart about it and not saying a thing. Remember everyone happy wife happy life 🙂 Not that I’m married, But we have been together for almost 1 year and 10 months. ❤

Reason’s.

Hello all, this is my first blogging attempt … let’s see how this turns out 🙂

Now I’m here in school not doing my work of course and thinking about everything that has happened so far, in almost a weeks’ time. I turned 20 and it still hasn’t hit me. Honestly I should be back in high school, working on a huge school production or going to prom, but in reality I’m years away from that time.
  For my birthday I got a lovely gift, a puppy named Dutchess. She’s my baby now. I don’t plan on having kids in the near future. My boyfriend of 1 year and 9 months got me her. It was a funny story though, because I can be a pain in the butt at times. I saw an ad for a pure bred Siberian Huskies and I called immediately. Which my boyfriend wasn’t too happy about because I just insisted that’d he’d pay for the dog. Not to sound spoiled or anything, but in the end I got her. I also had to wait close to 3 weeks before she could come home.
  At this moment my house is under renovations and I’m staying at my boyfriend’s parents’ house while we wait for hours to be done. I can’t wait to be home. We have been at his place for over a month, which after a while gets you know, long. You just want to go home. Go back to the routines you know and love. It’s hard living with people who don’t believe in the life style you believe in or don’t completely get what you get.
  I would call myself a nerd. I have glasses and I’m a brunette and I’m book smart, but clothing wise … I love fashion. People like Lauren Conrad, Selena Gomez and Kim Kardashian inspire my daily looks, from animal print to fashionable chic items. I can classically add that I’m a girly girl who loves shoes and other little staples like scarves and blazers. Besides all this, I volunteer at an SPCA, I strongly believe in animal rights. They should be treated with love and care, as if they were your child. Pet’s aren’t for everyone, like children and regardless people still get them and end up finding out the hard way.

Another course I’m taking is a personal trainer course. I want to help people be thier best. I want them to feel happy with themselves and improve their outer body look. Self-confidence is key in life. You want to be able to stand up and talk for yourself and not be scared to present yourself honestly.
  This is all I have for now and I will be posting sometime again, it will most likely be about my dog Dutchess or something I have an opinion on.
  Amber, xo