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Not interested

This is definitely going to come off as a slightly very much so bitchy blog. Sorry not sorry.

But just because I’m single doesn’t mean you can mind fuck and rape my photos on instagram unless you are legitimately one of my insta friends. (Which consist of Colin, Brett, Daniella or anyone I know in real life.) * This does not apply to you if you’re a hot chick – you’ve got free pass to do as you please. <- I crack myself up sometimes.

Also, stop DM’ing me. or I’ll block you. K thanks bye.

Oh side cheese – Yes I put my snapchat online – doesn’t mean I’ll add you or i’ll snap you back. Sorry. But I will send everyone the same snaps, or send you annoying snaps of my dogs. Hi.

Now to the other part of this blog, which is going  to be a rant of who/why/what/how the fuck I’m not interested in the people available.

Not interested:

Not if you live in Huntingdon.

Not if ya short or even my height. Unless you are Melodie- you love are perf’ ❤

Not if you don’t have a job.

Not if ya drink / smoke/ whatever the fuck more than once a week.

Not if you need attention from others girls consistently.

Not if you have a dirty Sanchez mustache – I mean please at least grow a real beard …

Not if ya obese or even over weight. <- Don’t mistake this for being a bitch and dating based on looks I like what I like and I refuse to settle for a turn off. I’m not asking you to look like Chris Hemsworth I’m just asking you not to have bigger tits than me. /done/

Not if you don’t like dogs.

And lastly not if you don’t like cars. Guys who aren’t into cars … like really ? Are you even male ? Where are your balls ? Do you even know what ‘stick’ means ? I mean we can be friends but I definitely wont date you haha. (Coughfriendzonecough)

It’s pretty sad how people don’t get ‘hints’ Trust me if I was interested you would know because I’d be talking to you. Or responding. And I really don’t even want to date. I want to lose 30lbs and fix my car up. Is there time for the D up in that mix ? Nah. Not really. Get over it.

Why do we waste so much time on finding ” mates” when we aren’t even our self ? when we aren’t happy ? I see so many people going into relationships unhappy seeking happiness and then they realize it can’t or their partners can’t fulfill their needs. I don’t need a relationship or even want one. I mean sure it’d be nice to kiss someone and cuddle someone – but I don’t need it and I’m not going to lower my standards just to get partial happiness and to not feel lonely. It wouldn’t last because I’m not being true to myself.

So I’m not interested overall. Not just of the options but also mentally, I just have no fucks to give. I want to work on my self. I want to work on my home. ON MY CAR <33 Give my dogs the love and attention they deserve. Be on time for work. Pay off more debt. Save money. And wholeheartedly and completely love myself, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

“Be the best version of yourself rather than finding someone better than your ex”

So suck it up buttercup :] #EndRant

Peace.

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Is love blind ?

So on fb someone (mino) posted a photo of a pair of old no good boots that she was going to get rid of and I went forth and commented on there and another friend/cousin of hers commented (jed) and then we went forth with disputing on love. Not negatively but jokingly about love and blindness and so forth and I came out with this: 

“No but to be in love with some one or something you have to have an attraction to them and that attraction then turns into persuasion / relationship/ buying the shoes/ car /horse/ or anything it is- first an attraction a “hey look at that/those/her/him” and then from there on out it turns into love. I cant be in love with “blank” if I’m not attracted to “blank”. something draws me to it and that draw is attraction and that can even be applied to “mind sets – or how people think” like i can be attracted to a person not based on looks but based on their thinking process or views on the world or how they treat others. but the key line here is attractions draws which turns into something more.. thus being that love is not blind because you were first drawn to it/thing/item/him/her/ what him her thinks or does or says: so therefore what lead you to love was not the blindness but an clear view of something that triggered attraction in your brain/mind which open the doors to love.”

What do ya’ll think ? I’ve done plenty research on these topics because I want / had wanted to be a relationship psychologist and the biggest aspect in a relationship is love but anyways the prime idea here is that no love is not blind because you were drawn to the thing or person that you are in love with first. you were drawn through a primary sensory: seeing, hearing, tasting, touching ( I may have missed one ..) before it could lead to something else. (i.e. love)

Must say friends I’m pretty proud of myself for being this come-backy. usually I would have been like “no not true” but I actually used some knowledge.

#SingleLife

Yea, this post isn’t going on FB either haha. That title is so 2014 actually.

As you may or may not know readers I was in a long-term on and off relationship that was before a friend ship. And it ended in august/ september ish there was no real END date it just kinda went down up down and then ended. But it was always like this, unhealthy never going anywheres-ness. We are friends now, which is manageable for the moment.

I mean for once in my life I can do things how and when I want to. I don’t have to just check in or clarify to anyone. BUT there’s also the whole being an extrovert and wanting to socialize or be with people aspect that becomes lonely because you’ve lost an array of people in your life but as you see it doesn’t have to be that way. When you’re a mature adult it doesn’t have to be this cut throat ending. Well maybe that’s because there was no cheating involved in which case I can’t fucking stand cheaters and if it were to happen to me I wouldn’t keep that person in my life at all. But this previous relationship – the person is a good person he’s just not “the one” I guess you can say in a lame way. But he has been a good friend and I feel like in some way he will be for a long while. but it does make the other friendships made through the relationships (aka his friends) a little awkward, in my own personal opinion but maybe that’s because I’m socially awkward ?

Some people LOVE being alone, Some DESPISE it. Well folks I’m that guy (actually I am a female I’m just using the term guy loosely) the one who is like WELP I’m alone what to do, eat ice cream? watch sad movies ? Walk my dog at night-time? (not that ANY of those were real life examples – I don’t even buy ice cream haha) But what to do, I’m a mix of introverted and extroverted, if that even makes sense – I like to be alone but hate it, I like being with people but the sometimes I hate it. *I actually do walk my dog at night for the most part a couple of times a week it is pretty nice no ones driving by or around, just us two walkin’.

Anyways so my solution was to no-doubtly buy a dog, which was a great idea and I don’t regret it at all (but it was unexpectedly costly good thing I had 4k in savings) Duke, he is seriously the new love of my life and of course I still love Dutchess too!

And as for the rest I’m just going with it, the flow of life; sleep, eat, work, school, dogs, bills, cleaning, fitness, and repeat. What else can you do ?

travel the world, fall in love with yourself, be happy, see things that are new and exciting everyday, new experiences these are the things I am aiming to do in the now and future as much as possible . If that means being forever alone except having my dogs then so be it because the only person who knows you the best, loves you more than anyone else and who is with you 24/7 365 for life is YOU- YOURSELF that’s all you got and the rest are interactions which come together to make your life experiences with others, mind you don’t mistake this for “I’m never ever dating ugh I hate men” That is not at all what I’m saying, I’m just going to do what I do best and if someone lines up and is well you know the obvious “attractive, and mentally stimulating and is a hard worker and wants to share some of these experiences and is in love and I am too” then that happens, but I’m not forcing anything, I’m not chasing, I’m not going after, I’m not going online dating, I’m not settling, I’m not going after 17 year olds ever again cause like ew haha, I’m not going to sleep around. I’m just not going to extremes to put myself out there but I am living and I feel like this will lead to things as life lets you. I do not believe in faith or everything will fall together I believe in doing something you love and finding someone along the way and this is applicable to meeting friends too.  Just gonna do what I do, how I do, when I do all those do’s. haha does that even make sense :p.

I feel like I’m putting too much effort into explaining myself haha I’m one of those complicated elaborated not simplified persons don’t get me wrong I’m not extreamly happy, because well right now all I can think of is my shitty car and my homework assignment which I’m avoiding and in turn writing about this complicated mess of love and life. But I am living and I am doing the things I love which adds up to happiness. Which compared to a couple of years ago I’m way happier right now than I was 5 years ago or even months ago. Which in the long run is what matters most right? WHAT is with this font.

Awkwardness, so essentially I’m just being me and where that leads me is unknown because you never know what happens in tomorrowland until you’re there. (ha 10 points for anyone who knows what I’m talking about in this sentence! it’s a multi meaning type of thing.)

I’m just going to stop this now.

Peace.

 

The big Question

I follow and love  http://girlmeetsdebt.com/ Shes a great young lady paying off her rather large debts,  on her  blog she left a question that I am choosing to write a blog as my answer.

So my question for all of my blogger friends out there? – If you weren’t a Personal Finance Blogger (or insert ”x” blogger) what kind of “y” blogger would you be? What’s your other passion? And for my readers who don’t blog, would you still read a PF blog if all of a sudden that blogger started writing about other things other than finances?

I simply have a personal blog – where I blog about my life, my thoughts and my passions.

If I could have another blog (or two :p) it’s a relationships and advice blog – where I can give advice talk about my own issues or good happenings and maybe a segment would be interviewing other people and telling their story.

The second blog would be an inspiring fitness blog for all those people who say “they don’t know how” and ” they cant”. I would show them that they could. In grade 11 I lost 60 lbs and kept them off for 3 years. Last year in a mild depressions I gained 50lbs back. In June of 2013 I took initiative and started back on my health pack slowly but surely I have lost (and gained). Now in 2014 I have lost a total of  5lbs this month, solid, and because of my physical job I’m not only losing fat but gaining muscle and am feeling more better about myself than when I was just skinny. I want to motivate people. Give them tips. I have two personal trainers courses under my belt. I have a passion for health and an ice cream weakness (nobody is perfect).

I just don’t feel good enough.

YEP. I know. Stupid eh.

Maybe one day I will feel good enough.

Peace

Social Psychology

I`m an almost expert now! I wish but I`ve learnt a lot. Like why I joined soccer or why I`m friends with the people I am friends with and also why I don`t get along with my family.

I have one day left of my Psychology summer course and it is the final exam I have to take on Thursday. I also have to hand in a self-reflection paper / what this course has taught me paper.

And I would post it here but I don`t like what I know about myself. But I do what to help a few people out. According to my class,  if you`re dating someone and you have nothing in common- break up, or you can try to make it work but it will be time consuming and both partners have to be committed and don`t ever get married. Apparently people who aren`t alike have a higher divorce rate. That’s just some blunt advice/information, that you don`t have to take especially if you live by the philosophy “opposites attract“.

               I`m not sure if I believe this yet myself but I guess I`ll see.  I just mean social media play`s with this topic all of the time, you always see the rich prince and the nobody getting together. They`re nothing alike but they fall in love and get married and live happily ever after.  But I guess media likes to over dramatize everything and make the unbelievable seem like a possibility. (That’s why all these years I`ve thought there were really aliens, stupid media effects for misleading my childhood beliefs.)

My current relationship is amazing and we have something’s in common, but were not 100% alike. We both don`t like doing the dishes, which leads to one of us bribing the other to do them.  I find when you have things in common you can do a lot more.  But for every good thing there are  annoying things such as I hate shopping with men. I hate hate hate it, unless they will pay for my stuff. They are so awkward they just stand there and ladies if you’re reading this and have this problem: there is no cure and if you don`t have this problem: holy shit girl your lucky! And if you’re a guy reading my blog and notice that my example complies with you: change! Say something, point something out, DON`T stand there awkwardly!  And my second difference with my BF is I like things that give me a thrill, like roller coasters, elevators and scary things.  And well he hates roller coasters, the others don`t faze him, but he does not like anything with motion and heights. Which means either I go alone on rides, or we double date or we don`t go and save that money.  

I do Believe that you have to have things in common to have a good & fun relationship but you don`t have to have everything in common. There will be obstacles and as partners you should overcome them (depending on the activity/thing) or just leave them as is, it depends what you don`t have in common.

For us we just have given up on amusement parks because I have loneliness problems,therefore, I don`t go on rides alone because I need to hold someone’s hands. And for dishes ha-ha well, I cook and I believe that the digester/eater/person should clean up since I slaved over a meal for them.

But regardless of all this, I love my class and am now convinced that I will take every single psychology option available.

Do you believe in opposites attract?

Are you currently in a relationship where you and your partner are not the same at all?

If so how do you guys make it work?

xo, Amber