I`m an almost expert now! I wish but I`ve learnt a lot. Like why I joined soccer or why I`m friends with the people I am friends with and also why I don`t get along with my family.
I have one day left of my Psychology summer course and it is the final exam I have to take on Thursday. I also have to hand in a self-reflection paper / what this course has taught me paper.
And I would post it here but I don`t like what I know about myself. But I do what to help a few people out. According to my class, if you`re dating someone and you have nothing in common- break up, or you can try to make it work but it will be time consuming and both partners have to be committed and don`t ever get married. Apparently people who aren`t alike have a higher divorce rate. That’s just some blunt advice/information, that you don`t have to take especially if you live by the philosophy “opposites attract“.
I`m not sure if I believe this yet myself but I guess I`ll see. I just mean social media play`s with this topic all of the time, you always see the rich prince and the nobody getting together. They`re nothing alike but they fall in love and get married and live happily ever after. But I guess media likes to over dramatize everything and make the unbelievable seem like a possibility. (That’s why all these years I`ve thought there were really aliens, stupid media effects for misleading my childhood beliefs.)
My current relationship is amazing and we have something’s in common, but were not 100% alike. We both don`t like doing the dishes, which leads to one of us bribing the other to do them. I find when you have things in common you can do a lot more. But for every good thing there are annoying things such as I hate shopping with men. I hate hate hate it, unless they will pay for my stuff. They are so awkward they just stand there and ladies if you’re reading this and have this problem: there is no cure and if you don`t have this problem: holy shit girl your lucky! And if you’re a guy reading my blog and notice that my example complies with you: change! Say something, point something out, DON`T stand there awkwardly! And my second difference with my BF is I like things that give me a thrill, like roller coasters, elevators and scary things. And well he hates roller coasters, the others don`t faze him, but he does not like anything with motion and heights. Which means either I go alone on rides, or we double date or we don`t go and save that money.
I do Believe that you have to have things in common to have a good & fun relationship but you don`t have to have everything in common. There will be obstacles and as partners you should overcome them (depending on the activity/thing) or just leave them as is, it depends what you don`t have in common.
For us we just have given up on amusement parks because I have loneliness problems,therefore, I don`t go on rides alone because I need to hold someone’s hands. And for dishes ha-ha well, I cook and I believe that the digester/eater/person should clean up since I slaved over a meal for them.
But regardless of all this, I love my class and am now convinced that I will take every single psychology option available.
Do you believe in opposites attract?
Are you currently in a relationship where you and your partner are not the same at all?
If so how do you guys make it work?